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Turning 30, I feel that the milestone is really for my parents. This year is also the year that I will move out of my home, and into a new one with Alvin. This is probably the biggest thing for me rather then turning 30, I would say is to move away from my parents and the room and house I call home for 30 years. My first thought was not about me but the people around me, this 30th. Mainly my parents, and my friends, specially my best friend, Alvin. Say not that much of alvin but he has shaped alot of how I am in the later parts of my years. Come to think of it at the end of this year is also the 10th year of us being together as a couple,  we celebrated with our wedding with a bang, I am satisfied with it and I always hug him to show that I appreciate him heh. But for most part of my life, my parents and my best friend were the ones that was there, walking the journey with me. For that, I am so thankful and grateful that God has kept us together, kept these people close to me, and for giving me a whole family. Something as simple as having a whole family is one that I never thought much about until now, where we don’t think much of but is a luxury and something impossible for some kids, to have and live with both their parents.

I hope that my parents see my 30th as their milestone, bringing a human being up, from the time I was a problematic baby and not a very healthy one at that. I think they did quite a pretty good job with me, raising me up, with values and morals. I say that they never discounted anything in my life, gave me all that I needed and even wanted. The hardest part is probably letting go of me, and letting me do my own stuff even though I still stay under their roof. Now that I am married, most part of my schedule and time revolves around Alvin and my business, we do most things together.

One big reason for me taking the leap into business, although everything was very uncertain was my parents support. Both of them say yes I should try and not once they ever discouraged me or told me that I was being silly, or asked me to go look for a job. I know, in the end even if it failed or I go broke, I still live in their house and eat their food. The other was Alvin of course, one who would have to feed me when we move out. Sometimes these people have more faith in what I am, and what I can do then myself. We all need these people in our lives.

For my friends, those who been through with me, know my quirks, accept me for who i am. And mel who’s been there all along, ups and downs in my life. Good thing we both are decent people and not havoc. I guess for that both our parents should thank each other that they raised us up well, and we found each other. We used to change best friends in Primary school, but little did I know is when two people have some sort of chemistry and find each other funny or interesting. I guess this is much like a relationship except its a friendship. there is no need for labels like BFF and what not to prove to the world or show off, but just something very simple as being present in one’s life. We have grown to the point where we dislike each other’s taste, but some things we can agree on. Mostly now, we agree to disagree which i think is the highest form of friendship. Now, we have known each other more then half our lives right? And i hope we will be still close even at 50, or 60.

Unlike others, I don’t have a bucket list or a list of things I want to do before 30. But it seems that I have done most of the things that people put as bucket list. I got married to Alvin, I travel to placed wherever I wanted, I started a business, I have good friends that stick by me. Health wise has been up and down, last year and this year mostly better. I found that as years go by, things actually get better although we tend to over think and over worry about the future. Perhaps as I get older, I find that if you want it you can go get it. But sometimes some things are not meant for you or not good for you. And life, it is hard to know or predict the future but whatever comes, if its opportunity, go for it. If it’s something you don’t like, leave it. I guess the best things I did was, One to date Alvin. Two to start my business. I hope in my 30s, there would be more of these best things I did and when I look back, I will not have regrets or what ifs.

Thank you Everyone who has been part of this 30 year journey.

There are some things I learnt nearing to 30, and also want to take it with me down the 30 road.

  • Not everything turns out the way you want it to be but thats ok, in the end everything that is good comes through and you will be happy with what you have
  • Patience, Time, things take a long time to flourish, in personal growth, in business
  • Friends come and go, a few who will always be by your side. Let go those who go
  • I struggled with this for long, wanting to look like others and be like them, better, more well to do, and wanting to be where they were. Everyone has their own path, so do i. I stopped looking at others and concentrating on myself
  • Creating the life that I want to live – this is the hardest part and the most challenging part that will always be on going. It is easy to follow the crowd, to do what others do. To break out in thoughts and in action so that I can be living the life I like
  • Go to church regularly because we all need fresh revelations and a touch of Jesus
  • Do Quiet time, because we can get caught up with work and things and our soul gets sucked dry
  • Celebrate occasions, because those are the times we remember the best
  • Explore, Unlearn, redefine, relearn – Always taking that step to learn things I don’t know, not being afraid to try, not being intimidated by foreign subjects and experience. This is something I am easing into right now
  • Take charge of your life, in terms of changing what you want, being better in things, go for courses for your career, no one will be more vested in you then yourself
  • Find the right kind of love, and the right kind of man who will give you that
  • Don’t do things or go to places you don’t enjoy, you can always use that time to do something you like
  • Trial and Error, nothing works fine the first time and it is ok to be wrong.
  • Assumptions can be wrong, but there’s always time to make new ones. I thought I liked something, or something was good. Turned out it was not too good.

 

To sum up, I am quite excited to see whats in store down the road here. And I think 30 onwards will be the best years of my life. Like how someone wished me “Happy birthday. 30 good, wah. I think 30-35 is a good age to be in, you are not too young and naïve, and not too old and senile.” Thank you, I think that is wonderful to know. Hehe. In my heart and mind, I am always still 24.

 

 

 

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I met up with Shu Ling that day, she always tells me stuff that makes me think and help to straighten up jumbled thoughts in structured order. I took away some stuff she shared and told me. One of which was how to decide easier. I asked her how does she do it? She chose between a good paying job and a job which interest her more but paid a lot less. (more then 20% less). How do you decide? I asked her, because I m also always stricken by what is practical and what makes sense vs. what I feel.

she shared with me that the good paying job would have been what she wanted 2 years ago, but not anymore. It would be something she would be working hard towards to actually get that sort of job. she grown out of the job or what she use to want. & now she would like to do something related to society and give back to society or for social good. So any decisions she make for jobs would go back to that as a basis which will make it easier for her to make decisions.

For life, she said that she would do things to meet the belief of her being happier this year then last, and better then the last. So anything she does goes back to this.

I thought it would be applicable to me to know what is my life philosophy, what I deem impt generally so it would be easy for me to decide on things – business, life, etc. It would be a much more efficient way then to keep rethinking on decisions. So this two weeks I have been pondering on it. I feel that it would also help me shape what I want my life to be and how I would live my life in the next 5 years.

This is in lieu of me turning 30. A number isn’t a big deal but being intentional is what I want to be. Not just float through the years like the first 3 years after graduating not knowing what I like, what I want, what I need to pursue.

In Business, Life, Relationships, Personal Growth, Giving back to society.

I did share with her that I might then seem rather superficial because what I want is only to be comfortable and that largely will come from being financially well to do. I feel generally everything I do, is to be comfortable in living my life. I would love to advice pp – I.e giving back to Society but I feel that I’m not quite ready and apt for it right now because I have not reached a certain level of “success”.

She told me that everyone has different wants and different things that will satisfy them, If it is what I want or think what I want, by all means go all the way and do whatever I can and everything I can to reach there, and then see if it’s really what satisfies and makes me fulfilled/ feel achieved. And no one can say it’s wrong or bad, because it’s very individual.

and if I can’t decide or pinpoint yet how I want to do things – all the above, then try the “world’s way” means everyone elses ways and see if I am comfortable with it, eventually I will come to form my own opinion and own way to do things (live my life, business etc.) that I find resonates / peaceful with myself.

Does everyone have a life philosophy as well?

Some of my friends have – be kind to others whenever they can. Some are travel as much as they can. (one wanted to travel to 50 countries or cities Before 30, and he’s done it) Some just worry as much as they can- just kidding! Some wants to date as much as they can (haha) maybe not anymore as we are at the age of wanting to just concentrate on one partner. Some are having family – many kids. Some are to make a difference in the world.

The point of this post is also that I want to be intentional in living my life. I think I have been rather this year, and i know that my life will be more intentional next year if I plan for it to do and achieve what I want. Life passes too fast, there’s no number (age) of doing something but this quote striked me because it reinforces that life is precious and you can live it wild (not sleep around) but beyond your imagination and fears.

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.
– MARY OLIVER

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I’m back here, to update what I been up to for… the last 10 days! Alvin and i took a trip to Korea – Seoul & Jeju. Jeju really surprised me because I really liked Jeju. Although I was feeling super tired and sick during the days in Jeju, I felt like it was such a serene place with lots of land and greens and sea. And i actually enjoyed the sightseeing – HA HA HA. NEW FOR ME RIGHT?

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I am the omg i don’t want to walk type of person, but recent 1 year I think I have changed a little. After doing Dragon back Trail in HK, I felt like I start to enjoy scenery and hiking related more. It tend to tell me that even though the journey is long and far, during the journey it teaches me how to be patient and take one step at a time, and the end result – the view is worth it. But i really appreciate and learn more of the journey itself,i  feel like it shapes my character in a weird way, and i relate that back to me and my business.

So we took a nearly 10 day trip to Korea. 3 days spent in Jeju which was not enough for me. I actually on the impulse asked the host if she had space for 1 more night for us because i really loved her place – it looked out to the sea. but she was really full, so we just went back to Seoul as planned. I would recommend anyone who is going to Jeju to stay at her place, she provides korean breakfast and she speaks english. Its hard to communicate in Korea if they don’t know english and chinese. All the circles and the squares make my head fuzzy too.

Let me ramble on before I start on the Korea stuff proper maybe on the next post. So this trip, is something both of us really needed. Our last trip was August 2015, alvin been working hard at his job and he’s also achieved completion of his ACTA – Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment. He studied part time at night classes for around 6 months before completing it in June. And also, he has decided to embark on his Masters that will start in August, so it was a good break for him :’)

For me, I been stressed over my business, wondering what next and how do I do certain things better. Also, what is important for me in the business and as a person – this will affect how I treat and grow my business; sort of like my values. I remember my previous work place manager, he always told me that if one’s mission is to earn 1mil bucks, 2 mil bucks, then you will be lost after achieving it. It should be more like, how meaningful your job/what you are doing, does it help the society, do you give back? I struggled abit also because a retail business is based on “wants” and not “needs”. I think “needs” are like food business like hawkers, fruit sellers, econ mini-mart where they sell bread and stuff. Things you need to live. I honestly got lost somewhere and just sit back and wondered what value am i providing to people? Why are they buying from me? Why I am selling stuff to them? As well as got caught up thinking of growing the expanding the business, and was afraid that it would just be all about numbers/money.

This trip – Jeju especially opened my eyes and heart about a few things. A general gist was that, we stayed in Airbnb studio owned by Isabel (The host) and her husband. We hired a taxi driver Mr Lee who was in the hotel industry before he drove taxi and take tours. Both of them inspired me pretty much more then average. I always loved to chat with locals when we go to any cities (the last i enjoyed so much was chatting with Maureen, our host at San Fran) because it gave us their perspective in life, in their job, in the place they are in and the situation they have.

This is what our accoms in Jeju looked like. the seaview is REAL.
Sign up via my referral link to get SG$30 travel credits : www.airbnb.com.sg/c/stang18
Isabel house Airbnb link : https://www.airbnb.com.sg/rooms/7331339

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What i took away was that – If you can make yourself or your service of Value, I.e. it brings value to people, your business will flourish.

Isabel was a teacher before being a host, her husband designed and built the 3 storey house and also had the foresight that people will like this place because it had a scenic sea view. I am also curious (friends would affectionately say I am kaypo) because I always wanted to know what inspire people and what led them to making the choices and decisions. The location of their house was purely coincidental. They were going nearby to view a land as they wanted to buy, and they didnt like it so much so they drove further and around. They just drove pass the current land that the house was in and there was a big rock on it. Her husband immediately said the land is good, but she couldn’t see it. Then he decided to buy it, removed the rock and built a building there. She couldn’t give two hoots , and didnt even visit the place until after it was done. She said she didn’t fancy or cared much of the process because she loved her job as a teacher. She just saw the rock and then the building, and i thought that was pretty hilarious and amazing. And other people around the neighbourhood was so worried for them and wondered why this couple person bought such a small piece of land with a rock on it! I feel that her husband has great foresight and also had in mind that travellers would like to stay in their house. He designed such that the windows faced the sea, the staircases are outside (like a flat style) not a bungalow style and the rooms are studio like.

2 points here I want to highlight is firstly, she loved her job. This is something i found in the Jeju locals that they are so proud of what they do and they put their heart into it. I have hardly ever heard anyone saying that they love their job in Sg. 2nd point was that sometimes things happen for a reason, a coincidence, just happened and its somehow God’s plan. I mean what are the odds that you chance upon a great piece of land when you were actually disappointed in the one you initially wanted to view. (I am not sure if they Christians, but she left a review on my page that included “God bless you ” so maybe they are. I read other reviews she left for other people that stayed at her place but she never did write God bless to others.) But anyway, my point, you get it.

She told me – I am not sure why people would want to stay here. i said the view is awesome and you serve breakfast and speak english. She said ohh ok, I guess the sea and breakfast right! I said yes. And this also led me to my 3rd point – that if you give something more then others, even if others may be doing the same thing as you. If you go an extra mile, just a small one, people will come to you. When I was searching for places to stay in Jeju, there was many to choose from, including sea view and even pool. I was so inclined to stay at her place because there was korean breakfast provided and her pictures looked so yummy and it felt like her hosting was very warm. And of course, it was convenient too to eat before heading out for sightseeing, thats what i thought and it proved to be a great decision and met her. I am always grateful to our airbnb hosts who are open to chat with us and share with us about their lives and their stories.

Me having korean breakfast prepared by Isabel’s helper

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And to the third point, when I was chatting with her, I asked if she knew what the other building used their rooms for. There was one or two other building just a few meters away and they could be doing airbnb as well but I am not sure. i was wondering if it was competitive to rent our the airbnb at her area because of the seaview and others did the same. She said to me simply, I don’t know and I don’t bother, I just do my own things. This taught me one thing is that, doesn’t matter what people are doing, even if they are doing well, better then you or not and if they are your competitors or not, you should just focus on what you do and do it well. It was quite a rude shock to me because I am always kaypo and curious to know what others are doing and how i can do better then them – if I am her, I would want to know if they have “better business” then me on airbnb. Then i learnt my 3rd point is – don’t look at what others are doing, just concentrate on your own thing. This called me back to the short meeting I had with Farah, a lady who on and off check how I am doing (sort of like a mentor/guide), she and another lady whom i just met told me that I will go down (fail) if i keep looking at others/other business and wanting to follow their style/ direction/what they do. So this really hit home for me.

Our taxi driver, Mr Lee had really good command of English (for a Korean). We chatted so much and he shared with us his life so much. And the best is, he knows so much about Singapore, and how things work here I almost had to ask him – did you live in Singapore?? How did you know so much about it! His customers are 90% Singaporeans based on referrals. And so I will refer anyone to him that wants to go to Jeju and need a driver. I highly recommend because Jeju is huge and public transport/bus are not very frequent. The travel from one place to another is 20mins – 1 hour.

Here’s our very kind and friendly taxi driver, Mr Lee Hong Min. (he speaks English)
To book him Watsapp: +82 10-9396-4498 / email:

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He has been doing this for 2-3 years, his father in law owns the taxi company. But what striked me hard was that he loves what he does, he isnt “sian” of bringing us around like its just his job or  a chore. I can’t imagine how excited you have to be doing the same time day in and out for 3 years. He works 23-26 days a month. You know like how some people in Sg (customer service sector) give you a sian look when they are serving you. Mr Lee was so patient, so punctual. We said 10am, and he comes at 920. Like omg we haven’t even started our breakfast! And the best thing is, he’s not just a driver. He parks his taxi, and brings us into the sightsee, walks with us and explains to us whats the history, what happened, how it came about. He will also take pictures for us, tell us the best place to stand and also take scenery pictures while we read the sign boards and stuff. I mean, which “taxi driver” will do all that, he was literally a tour guide and even got us discount one of the sight see entrance fee. This brings me to iterate 1. people in jeju really love their job. 2. they give more value then just the service they offer

And he was always chatting, smiling and always ready to bring us here and there where we want to go. On the first day, i was so tired and i didn’t say I wanted to go back to the accoms, but he said you look really tired why don’t we go back and rest for today and continue tomorrow. At that point, we had just reached the sight see entrance and even got down the taxi. If I was the driver, I would not bother because i drove all the way here! I said ok and we headed back.

It also dawned onto me and i was quite amazed that they could make a business out of just hosting people and driving people. It looked to me that there was a need in the industry and you can always make a business out of it as long as you provide value / something that someone needs. For them, it comes out of the tourism and people need the service their provide.

So although I felt real tired and sick during Jeju trip, I liked it a whole lot more then Seoul. Maybe less people, more fresh air and the seaview from our room. Also what I took away and learnt from the short 3 Days.. helped me to see that providing VALUE in whatever I do will lead me to the right path.

Sunset in Jeju looks like this, so picturesque – i took this outside Isabel’s place.

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Not many things that I want to do this year, only be happy, healthy and fulfilled. It might be easier to put in perspective that everything I do should lead to any of these three things.

Also to celebrate more occasions with family & friends because I find that I remember moments more when celebrated.

2016 I want it to be boring, as constant as possible, as status quo as possible. Too much happened in 2015 for me, so this year taking a notch down and slow down. I think maybe its better not to have any expectations and be surprised.

No huge changes, no big commitments. In all, trust God, let go and let God. And really stop worrying too much and live a non stressful life.

I read my prayer journal and the entire year of 2015 I am just a broken recorder of doubts insecurity and a bag of anxieties lumped into one. After turning the pages I also got sick of reading and writing the same thing, so this year I’ll stop repeating bad stuff and instead pray and write about good stuff.

Also to not think of negative things and obsessing over it. Taking a leaf from Alvin’s book to just do it if I want. and don’t think so much after.

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I wasn’t ready for 2016 but now I think it’s great to start the new year with a clean slate, especially a clean mind. :’) I don’t really want to recap 2015 so I will just look forward.

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I also embark newly this year on writing 3 things that i did well today, and 3 things I am grateful for. Last year I often worried about things i did not do, and things i sucked at and things i didn’t have. This year, a change of perspective.

We always think of what we didn’t do and also didn’t do well, we forget what we did well. I read that being thankful helps us to focus on positive too, not lack, not what we don’t have but what we have and cherish.

Coincidentally, mom gave me a new diary which says “THANKFUL JOURNAL”. And i think it will be nice to read it at the end of the year !

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I wrote this nearly a year ago but did not manage to upload the pictures! HAHAHA. So sorry for the one year delay, and this is going up only because our one year anniversary is this Sunday.

//06 Dec 2014
SOOOO here are the highlights and little details along the way of our Wedding, which may be interesting for Brides to be, or just kaypo you!:)

Alvin & I decided we didn’t want a traditional Chinese banquet and wanted something very intimate, casual and fun. We didn’t look around much because White Rabbit was probably the only place I always had in mind, with the gorgeous stained glass windows, high ceiling, and long table style. So as they call it, White Rabbit Wedding.

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We only invited our immediate family, and our closest friends because the space is limited. Also we wanted to cut down on the traveling to and fro (fetching the bride and what not jazz), knowing that Alvin hates anything troublesome and I am just plain lazy and easily tired out. We booked a very very nice suite (Caroline Astor Suite) at St Regis Hotel and the pictures turned out gorgeous because of their room interior and the REAL Christmas Tree at the lobby.

We started the first part of the day at St Regis, in our hotel room and here are the pictures. Woke up around 6.15am because our butler (yes we have a dedicated butler for suite room) brought our breakfast and we were madly rolling out of bed to open the door. Alicia (my make up artist) came shortly and she allowed me to eat before we started the make up. Alvin is super vain, so he had his own make up artist as well, when she arrived with our photographer everything was a whirl wind from there.

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Pictures with family, and our bridesmaids and groomsmen:’) Spot the Christmas Tree <3 Check out my dad’s tie and the groomsmen ties. I bought those online from China, and the quality is so good, it feels like smooth silk. It only costs me something like US$1 each. My dad and Alvin’s dad get different colour.

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St Regis hotel has the most beautiful chandeliers and staircases. Just a tip if you like extra decor and a celebration festive mood, take your photos/ hold your wedding during December when Christmas is just around the corner.

We headed to White Rabbit, it was drizzling by that time and I was pretty disappointed that we didn’t manage to walk through the Rabbit Hole, but the rain stopped later and we took some pictures. The rain made the greenery more lush and it was actually very pretty. As usual, things didn’t go exactly as planned, i think forgot my second dress and my IC. Mel didn’t wake up until 11am or something, and everyone thought she got into an accident or something, she missed out on all the pretty hotel pictures.

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Look at how beautiful the long tables and the flowers are. I only met Dawn once to discuss the flowers and left everything else up to her. I chose the colour scheme of flowers for everything, from my hand bouquet, bridesmaids to the corsages to the tables indoor and outdoor, heh. I think I was pretty relaxed about it, I guess I believe that if you get someone to do something, leave it up to them do it so they will do it well. The flowers turned out so amazing, with glass bottles (yes i wanted glass bottles). It really brighten up the whole mood.

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Alvin & I wrote our own vows :’) and it is close to 7 years, 24th Dec is our anniversary – the day we got together. I am very happy that we are married although we were hesitant and wanted to push it back to 2015 – mainly our house isn’t ready and we were comfortable being status – quo. We do our own stuff and get together after. We have different friends and hobbies, so it make perfect sense for us.

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After doing our ROM, we took some pictures outdoor, we have more pictures then this, its impossible to upload all! Our first walk in.

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Instead of wedding montage video, we opted for something more interesting. We asked our best friends to make speeches instead, which was more funny and I really loved it. Jimmy said that now I am married to a vainpot, that Alvin uses luxury skin care products. And Yoges & Mel told everyone that I had once told them that the guy I date would need to eat my leftovers as a requirement, so congratulations to the man who will be eating leftovers for the rest of his life. (kekeke) I love you all, couldn’t be more true then that.

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Thats us laughing at what they are saying..
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Our second walk in, and hello our wedding cake! The other thing I knew we wanted was a REAL cake. Kenny’s wife have been doing cakes for awhile, she started on the side and look at it! She even let me choose the flavour of our cake and the colour scheme, and the type of sugar flower i wanted. heh. Everyone was so impressed and thrilled that they kept coming up to take pictures of and with the cake. The flavour on the first and second tier was different, we had Earl Gray and Lemon. We had cake for dessert (After the set lunch dessert), and I hardly even got a piece to try because everyone gobbled it down in a second!

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Here are some candid shots, and us giving our speech.
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I think the happiest person that day could be my mom – she was so happy going around talking to all my friends saying hello. And the funniest thing was that we invited her biological twin sister and everyone (my dad’s side, we are closer to my dad’s side) had NEVER seen her before. They mistaken her twin for being her. The conversation goes

Aunty : Look at that table – looks like Stella right?
Uncle : What are you talking about, it is Stella
Aunty : No, Stella is sitting right in front of you!
Uncle : *Stunned face*
Cousin to my mom : I thought that was you! was wondering how did you changed clothes so quickly!

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Can you spot the twins?
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And AFTER – was my dream, to introduce single friends to each other. Hahahah check out the waiter that is giving us the weird stare. So introducing Charmaine to the guys!

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Throwing the bouquet!

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Some pictures of the food.
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Thank you for reading and of course attending the special day for us as a couple. All of our family and friends being there, it was important to us that it was enjoyable, had a good time and good foood. We wanted it to be casual and happy, there were so many happy faces and smiles on that day, and laughter. It was such a fun time together with those who are important to us, especially friends who flew all the way to Singapore for our wedding, Patrick and Debbie. I invited a few others as well but they couldn’t make it. I think most important for us was that the wedding really reflected on how we are, and having the most important people t us there, it was like a major party for me and my fantasy was always to have a couple get together after meeting at my wedding. Then we did make a difference, a big one in their life – and during their wedding they would say that they met during our wedding. I hope and I think everyone had so much fun and really enjoyed themselves.

Below is just a review of the vendors we use and the list if anyone needs a reference.

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Songs we used :
Solemnization: Surrender by Sunlonger Feat Chase (link)
First walk in : Everything by Michael Buble (link)
Second walk in : Best Days by Matt White (link)

Hotel : St Regis Hotel
St Regis service was impeccable, from the first impression when we went to take a look at their rooms and also function rooms as we were thinking of doing the Tea ceremony there in the morning. Christine personally brought us around and showed us the suite room as she knew it was important for us to see how it looked like before selecting the type of room we wanted. For us it was space and also visually for photos. Alvin requested for the larger of the suite (they had 2 sizes), and a Botanic Gardens view, and St Regis so kindly reserved it for us, we were so pleased with their first class service. In addition, when we checked in the day itself, she had put a note that it was a special occasion for us, and the butler even brought up chocolates later!

Now Alvin is a convert and fan of Starwood hotels, he told me that I made a good choice suggesting St Regis. Plus we were sooo pleased with the interiors of the hotel, they allowed us to take pictures inside, and there was Christmas Decor all around, December. They had a REAL christmas tree flew in from Canada and you can actually smell the scent.

Alvin & I had stayed in several hotels in Singapore before for staycation, and I am not exaggerating when we say that St Regis is easily the best hotels we stayed in, in terms of service and the warmth and sincerity of the staff. From the front desk to the butler, they were genuine and very accommodating. The only sad thing was that, the second day we wanted to dine at Yan Ting restaurant for Dim Sum but it was fully booked, and we had high tea instead but it really didn’t taste that good. You guys know that I am a person who chooses carefully where I eat. After having Regent’s hotel and even Fullerton hightea was better.

Wedding Lunch venue:
White Rabbit was probably the only place we looked, and we signed a contract and paid the deposit in July 2013 for the entire place, there’s a min sum spending to book the entire place or lesser if you just want part of the place. For us, there was outdoors and indoors, and food wise – the menu turned out to be super, everyone complimented on the beef that day, and the pace of the food was great. We got the wine separately from Wine Connection simply because it costs lesser to buy out of white rabbit even with the corkage charges. In the last minute we decided to add drinks and food after the solemnization, and even still after adding all that up, we were like $200+ short of the min. spending. And Adrian was pretty nice, he waived off the coffee charges which we ordered in the morning.

Wedding Cake:

I contacted Shan (She is Kenny’s wife, Alvin and him are ex-colleagues at Keppel) for the cake and we only discussed on whatsapp and then bam its done. She sort of gets what I like and the theme and everything. Also we had a not so lengthy discussion on what cake would match the frosting taste and if it is weird. I already had in mind that I wanted a real cake because I find it almost ridiculous to have cake cutting in every wedding I been to, but we can’t eat the cake – Yes i am greedy like that! The cake is crazy heavy and also decided that it would serve 70-80pax although we have 120 pax. This is because the norm are big slices, but for weddings usually people have already eaten and only want to eat a small piece, plus it would be so wasteful if its left over. Amazingly, I went around and everyone ate the cake in a jiffy. The cake is moist and tasteful, everyone especially my family loved it and I think I didn’t manage to even try the other flavour. We had Earl Gray and Lemon (1 tier per flavour).

Wedding outfits:
My gown and 2nd dress is from Michelle Hui Min, Bridal Veil. Alvin’s Suit is from the same place, under The Men’s Club. Our outfits were all made to measure, and designed for us. I loved the train behind my gown and went for something plain and classic with crystals on the bustier. For my second dress, I wanted something edgy, check out the tulip cut and high slit at the skirt. I loved both my dresses, undoubtedly, it took me awhile to decide but I think in the end, to trust your own taste and also Michelle was probably very patient with me while Miss-Cannot-Make-up-her-mind had to choose the different designs she did for me. Plus I had to call Tze wen and Mel multiple times (haha!)

Photographer :
We worked with Colin for our Pre-wedding shots in Paris, and we loved how he was – funny and we were very comfortable with him and Rachel. Rachel did our make up then, and they were so patient and made us feel really at ease with them. We could talk about anything and shared our ideas easily. Colin would let me do all sorts of weird photos I wanted, you know me… And best of all, he was always up for something exciting and out of the blue. The wedding day itself, he was in a really good mood. And he was relaxed probably because Alvin and I was. He said that I was probably one of the most relaxed brides ever, and he caught me and shot where i put my leg up on the chair – resting you know? My parents complimented him so much, that he was very hardworking, and knowledgeable. During tea ceremony, he helped to arrange in order of who was eldest, and also if they needed to sit or stand when we offered them tea. I think he was also running around capturing every tiny moment, and we trusted him, so we didn’t bother him one bit! He captured all the best moments of our day and I couldn’t be more grateful to him. It is important to get a photographer you trust and can work well with, because all you are left with after your wedding day are the pictures.

Jewelry :
My jewelry – Diamond Necklace is a gift from my mum, Gold bangle from Alvin’s mom, both as wedding present. Earrings are from Chanel, and our wedding bands are from Cartier.

Decor : Name Tags & Flowers
Mel wrote all my guests names, in a beautiful calligraphy handwriting, and tied ribbons for all. Everyone took photos of her tags and I was so pleased to find many on IG and FB. Leo even tied it on his bag and never took it out since that day!

I met with Dawn for flowers like 3-4 weeks before the wedding, and told her what colour and type of flowers. We only took an hour plus to decide on everything and wala! Look how gorgeous they turned out, I wanted Blue roses and red and white, it was to be a happy and vibrant hand bouquet, and it turned out perfect. I doubt you would find any brides bouquet the way I had mine ;’) Perhaps I should go into decor as well? And most of all, everyone could take home the flowers after, and they were mighty pleased! I initially was not going to have flower decor for the venue, but after looking through pictures and decided that even if it costs us, I would rather have done it then regretting that the pictures turned out blah.

List of vendors
These are a list of vendors that we used for our wedding, feel free to let them know that you read from my blog/ or show them for references on how you want your wedding to look like.

Hotel Venue: St Regis Singapore Hotel
29 Tanglin Road, Singapore 247911
Events Manager : Christine Wang
Phone : (65) 6506 6888
Website : http://www.stregissingapore.com/
Room : Caroline Astor Suite

Wedding Lunch Venue : The White Rabbit
39C Harding Rd, 249541
Events Manager : Annabel Chen / Adrian Chan
Email : annabel.chen@thewhiterabbit.com.sg / adrian.chan@thewhiterabbit.com.sg
Website : http://www.thewhiterabbit.com.sg/

Wedding gowns and suit : Michelle Huimin / The Mens Club
402 Orchard Road, Orchard Delfi #03-24/25 Singapore 238876
Contact : Colin
Phone : (65) 6738 6152
Email : enquiry@bridalveilonline.com
Website : http://www.bridalveilonline.com/

Photographer Pre-Wedding & Actual Day : Timeless Romance
Contact : Colin
Phone : 94891114
Email : Colin@timeless-romance.com
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/TimelessRomancePhotography

Wedding Cake : The Sweet Escake
Contact : Shan
Phone : 98716479
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thesweetescake

My hair and make up
Contact : Alicia
Phone : 96305301

Alvin’s hair and make up
Contact : Rachel P (Note that Rachel does not usually do actual day make up.)
Phone : 94891114

Florist : Fiorella Bouquet
Contact : Dawn
Phone : 91796689
Email : lovefiorellabouquet@gmail.com
Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/fiorellabouquet

Wine : Wine Connection
Anchor point, B1 , 370 Alexandra Road
Contact : 6476 8997

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Just chillax in Hong Kong for a few days, our first stop today was wanton noodles at Chee Kei & Macau egg tarts from “Macau restaurant” just opposite the street at TST. the egg tart is so much better then the one famous at Excelsior hotel (Lord stow or smth like that) , those were hard and pretty dry the last time we had in March. 

Yummy! No other pictures as you can see I stuffed it into my mouth even before I took a picture. 

 

Meanwhile I been obsessed with LUV AJ accessories lately, like marble & pave & so many wearable rings & pretty earrings. They are all plated gold and made out of good material (not those that rust and turn your fingers green). 

Check out the new cross chain earrings & pave pointe hoops from their new collection – here

  
& this new label Ford & Harris I like so much (although they are new, I think their pieces are so timeless, exactly what I would pick for myself to wear)  I just placed our first order and I ordered Ronnie, Brian & Joey all in silver for myself. I first liked Joey because it reminds me very much of Chrome hearts, and I liked Brian because it has a lot of holes. But after I seen how Ronnie was being styled by Savina & Amanda (oraclefox) , I think it may actually be the staple and everyday favourite  ring I am going to wear. 

collection here :D

Ronnie in silver, styled by Oraclefox

picture left (Joey with the onyx cross) , right (Brian that looks like a mini armour) the cross necklaces n earrings are gorgeous as well but I am a more bracelet & ring person. whoop, can’t wait for them to arrive and style them with denim! 
 

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When you are so comfortable with the person, you evolve from dating at movies and restaurants to strange things like impromptu cycling & feeding a family’s cat.

On Saturday, we went on such a random excursion to Punggol settlement, there was a bike stand (actually 2), and we decided to rent a bike and go around. Here’s what the cycling path / PCN (park connector looks like). We rode along the  North eastern riverine PCN or something, to Punggol waterway & back. 

    

We took the shortest route – along the new housing area on the water front that’s still building, I am amaze by what they have done to that place. The waterfront is ready (like a mini lake) running across the front of all the HDB blocks. Happy me doing some form of exercise after 1 entire month of being sick, and probably gained 2KG from all that eating of ice cream & cakes since our wedding! Pardon my fatty face! 
  

I thought it was rather interesting that there were unusual looking birds which otherwise wouldn’t be here. Perhaps they migrated because of the lushious greens and water. They were black & white, and made really squawking weird noises. I was just happy to see something different then pigeons and swans.

  

Punggol settlement greets you with two large Turtle ponds, a couple of restaurants, & a public toilet that is so dirty I would rather pee in the forest/trees. Our friend says hello. 

 

 
That’s Alvin pretending that he’s some hot dude riding, he literally started taking off everything he wore, and if he could go nude without the police catching him, he would have! 

  

it was a pretty cool day after the thunderstorm in the early morning, and not scorching hot, but both of us were really tired after that! We took about an hour plus or so, we even ate our tabao-Ed lunch half way through the ride. I think I got a slight tan from that cycling but I am OKAY with that since its after the wedding, I am not too obsessed about being fair now, but rather wanting to get some sunshine as I have been cooped up at home for the past 6 months! 

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