Posts Tagged ‘wedding’

sometimes things that Alvin say can surprise me. We were texting, I told him the dates which I was going to Bangkok, and he said okay, must be safe and becareful. I said okay maybe I will buy a SIM card this time, previously when I was with my family trip, I wanted to stay away from checking my phone all the time, so I didn’t get one and it helped me to rest. So he texted back, okay how much should I give you? I said why should you give me ? for me I thought I was going away so I should be buying it anyway. He said – so I can talk to you when your there.

This is our 6th year together and I am so so so blessed to have my husband to be (strange to call him that) to want to talk to me although I will be just gone a few days and even wanting to pay for my SIM for that. I feel strongly that this is what God has ordain marriage/ relationship to be, like WINE. it just gets better and better as years passes by. There’s nothing better then to let God work in your marriage / relationship. if you think that being together with the same person is boring and things get stale after many years, it doesn’t with God involved. :’)

He can turn your marriage / relationship from water to wine. Bland, boring, plain to intoxicating, special, precious.


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Saturday we dropped by the place we thought in mind to start the party, I think we both like the place, unconventional, not boring, greenery and relatively large walking space (because alvin is so fat now). He says “Argh I feel so irritated during friends wedding banquets, so squeezy and when someone gets up, and the other person behind gets up, both chairs meet – there’s no more walking space!”

I think we more or less settled on Dec 2014 / Jan 2015. We just have to confirm the date and put a deposit to secure the place to make merry, to get married. :’) It would be quite a cosy affair and inviting immediate family and close friends.

Visited the 5th designer gown boutique on that day too, I think I am quite inclined to him and might be going for a simple make to measure gown. I’m still not 100% sure, but I am definitely not going for 2 out of 5 that I went. I might just visit 2-3 more before making a decision, and revisiting 2 just to make sure. Gown trying and searching is much more tiring then I expected and I am already exhausted from visiting 5 places, that I do want to make a decision so I don’t need to have it nagging at the back of my head or completely forget nearer to our wedding day (although it would be nearly 2 years later).

We are going to do a simple affair although it doesn’t seem so simple to me now looking at the list of things. We are going to try and make this not so stressful and enjoy the decision makings together. We want to enjoy the day and breeze through it, have good fun with family and friends. So far, very good and I will strictly stick to our budget. :’) Once we decide on the top 4 things, the rest should be relatively easy to look out for throughout the year.

The top 4 most important things in order to me are:
1. Photographer
2. Venue
3. Pre-wedding Shoot Place
4. Gown/Suit

The rest in random would be:
1. Decor (recep & tea ceremony)
2. Flowers / Florist
3. Church venue
4. Bridesmaid dresses/ Bestman outfits
5. Shoes / Jewelry
6. Hotel room


Thinking about it happening in 2 years time, I have mixed feelings. Part of me feels like 2 years is really a long time, we have been together for .. 5 years. Another 2 years would be 7 years. Like thats pretty long, I’ll be 27 nearly 28.. But part of me feels that if we push it any closer like mid next year, thats almost only a year to get ready only since its already March now, and we still need time for our own stuff that we planned out for this year, leaving us around 6 months to get ready (into shape) for our pre-wedding shoot that we intend to do next summer. And another few months to get ready for the wedding day. I also do hope that my grandparents would be well enough in 2 years to see me get married, my grandmother had said if we were to wait for our house till 2017, she is afraid she might not be around anymore – of which I told her not to worry, we were planning to be married in 2015.


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Last week Alvin and I met up a photographer whose work I really like, for our pre-wedding and wedding day.

First thing he asked was where is wedding venue and have you gotten your dress? When I said no to both, he looked at us, surprised. I was abit offended honestly, I straight forwardly with a slight displeasure asked him Why? Whats wrong? (To me, I didn’t see what was wrong with looking for him first! And I had admired his work since 2010.) 

He said usually couples settle for a venue, and girls get their gowns first then LASTLY was the photographer as though it was the least and last thing they did. 

Ohhh then I realized, I didn’t have to be offended. HAH. Because I guess Alvin & I are much different from others. People do things different in the order of what they think is important – in other words, priority, and we don’t have to be the same like other people as we are not.

To us,  a photographer is the most important part of this wedding thing. Mainly because he will capture all the memories that will last for the next 50 years, and we want to be proud our pictures 50 years from now, and not hide them in a corner embarrassed by how crappy our tastes were back when we were young. THAT moment or any moment in the few hours is only going to be ONCE. We can never turn back time to re-do the scenes and all the emotions & feelings again. And when we discussed it before, alvin said he was willing to pay for a good photographer as many of his colleagues and friends shared their experience with him. Personally, he also saw some of their photo outcomes and how the photographers worked on the wedding day, some were less then mediocre. One of his colleague even said that if he could turn back time, and he knew, he would have paid more for a better photogpraher. HAH! So seriously, after ALL that would have passed, your wedding day will whosh by in 24 hours and whats really left for you to hold are the photos which would speak a thousand memories of that day.

(and even if you’re ugly, good photographers would know how to make you look good.) wink wink.


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