I started off 2024 with my birthday, feeling grateful and wanting to be more aligned to myself.
Today Cny, i felt unsure why history repeats itself. I am not accepted for being me, for doing what i want but being imposed by the closest to me by how i should act/ by how i should do my things by. However this time i’m alot more aware of what’s going on and i wondered if it is me. do i attract that kind of thing that people feel that they can say whatever they want and i will accept it?
That i don’t know myself better and they know?
I was anxious about my dad and me argue over cny eve reunion, but nothing happened. i was anxious that my aunty would make stupid remarks but she didn’t.
I had a fight with alvin 2 days after my birthday which i was very upset because he don’t seem to support what i need to do for myself . he claims i have no routine and sleep late, so i get sick or more sick.
Then aft cny he imposes on me that i should not walk if i’m tired, not knowing that i need it to regulate my nervous system which i have been wreck since last week..
i told him he wasting my emotional energy which i can use to work n do more productive things. to me , he spoilt the good time we could have together that i planned to have.
I think he misses his family and time in msia n feel fomo and i felt he take it out on me cus he don’t know how to manage the emotions and always compare how noah is closer to my family then his, but it’s not that true.
I don’t want to waste emotional energy because i want to focus on better things, so this is the last time i’ll fight with him and cry over such things, i swear. I’ll just block off n keep it inside me, and talk to a therapist instead.
I was upset cus he pick on me n we fight 2 days aft my bday – celebration / and 2 days aft cny festive season, is like why does ppl like to pick n critique me aft celebteive seasons?
i’m just doing my own things. I do what i think is best for my body. why does he think he knows better ?
i went to find last year post on people telling me what to do, cus i asked lizzie what’s the issue.
lizzie say if cus i’m passive or i come across as unsure of myself – yes i am, then i should start learning how to be sure of myself…
i also realized that i no longer allow ppl to dictate if i had a good or enjoyed celebration or festive or not.
I also will stop letting ppl say what to affect me, i’m giving my power away to them. that they shld not say that to me. sure everyone is entitled to their own opinion. they can disagree with me but it’s my life and i can dgaf. i can pretend that i have a bubble and fiercely protect myself against people who don’t support me or don’t agree with me. this is work for myself
also realized vivien never needs anything from us , be it present or money or gift for her child. is like she’s so self sufficient and even books, she gets very offended when she receive books from us.